Judgements

first published (c) 2007
James Robinson
    

          One of the most insidious thought forms humans experience is judgment. It is an energy pattern that is created by thought which is wrapped by emotion. Judgments in a healthy sense are formed when we experience an event, a life lesson or an opportunity for change, and we record these experiences in our memory fields for analysis and recognition. It is said that wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from mistakes. Although we all know that there are no mistakes, only learning opportunities, we learn and grow from our experiences if we are willing to change how we react or experience the same or similar events.

          As an example, say we are warned at an early age not to put our hands on a stove burner. It certainly makes sense to an adult that if you put your hand on a stove burner; the chances are that you will be hurt. To the child, however, who has never had a burned hand or seen someone else get hurt by touching the burner, it is left to faith and obedience whether the child touches the burner. For any child that is rebellious, inquisitive or hard of hearing, the inevitable result will be that the child’s limitations will be tested and a burned hand may be forthcoming.

          To further the example, let us say that the child does indeed touch the burner and is hurt. Our healthy judgment would record the events and conclude that touching something that is hot is not pleasant, and involves hurt and pain. Unless the child is raised by highly evolved and enlightened parents, it is likely that other judgments will be taught to the child at this event. For many, the lessons that will be learned are that the child is stupid, or the parent is never wrong. Guilt and shame are heaped on by the parent to reinforce the lesson to ensure that the child will never repeat the dangerous behavior. However, even with the most altruistic and loving intentions, the parent is teaching the child that the child’s judgment is faulty, that the parent must be obeyed at all costs, and that the child is unlovable.

          The result on an energetic level is that the child’s emotional and mental energy gets stuck. The judgment becomes embedded into the mental processes of the child (the mental body) which creates a reality for the child. This reality is distorted because the judgments created from this life event warps the mental processes which the child will be forced to deal with the rest of the child’s life. No one is accusing the parent of abuse and no one really believes that the child is unlovable. Unfortunately, the subconscious of the child becomes a mind-field (pun intended) of these judgments, which shape and influence life as the child experiences it.  A judgment sets us up to keep repeating the same behavior until we understand that it is only judgment at play. A judgment labels events, people, memories and experiences as being a certain way. This label prevents change and the more you judge, the more stuck you get.

          Everyone has these energy blocks in their mental and emotional bodies. Judgments about body image, self-esteem, intelligence, sex, food, appearance, jobs, are all influenced by the experiences of the individual and the training/teaching they have received at the feet of their families, friends and teachers. Imagine what life would be like without all of these unhealthy judgments. We would want to keep a level of discreet judgment; after all we don’t want to be touching hot burners anymore. What we don’t want is to attach judgments about fear, guilt and shame to common life experiences. In other words, what would life be like without fear, guilt and shame?

          For the individual interested in letting go of judgment, it is a difficult process. Many of the energy thought patterns which make up our personality are the same energy thought patterns that attach unhealthy emotion to life events. To let go of unhealthy thought patterns may mean that we have to let go of who we think we are. Scary stuff, to be sure. Without unhealthy judgments, there would be no war, no disease, no famine and no fear.

          So how does one go about this sticky task of removing judgment? The first step is to recognize that we are creatures of judgment. Most of our thought patterns revolve around a judgment that we have formed about life. Who we want to marry, who we want our children to marry, who we are attracted to, what foods we eat, what kind of medical treatment we seek, what kind of house we like to live in, are all based on judgments. If we had perfect recall, and could rewind our life in front of our lives, we probably could find the event or events which led to forming these judgments. The first step is always awareness.

          When we walk outside, we usually notice what the weather is doing. Is it hot, is it cold, is it sunny, is it freezing rain? How do you feel about that? Are you happy or unhappy that it is freezing rain? Would it make any difference to you to find out that freezing rain often serves as nature’s pruning source to remove dead or diseased branches and limbs? Or if you knew that freezing rain was nature’s way of killing a lot of critters that we would rather not see in the summer time? Another thought that may alter your feeling is that somewhere in the world someone likes freezing rain. It is all part of the universe’s great design. Why do we need to feel one way or the other depending on the weather?  All we need to do is to be aware that how we feel about it is based on a judgment we formed earlier in life about freezing rain that may or may not be based on observable reality.

          The second step in dealing with judgment is to recognize and admit our denial. Our thought patterns will lie, cheat and steal to stay alive in our subconscious. We often are confronted with alternative realities which we dismiss as impossible in an attempt to keep the status quo. In one sense, denial is our emotional and mental bodies’ method of keeping the status quo. Despite all evidence to the contrary, humans are capable of incredibly acrobatic feats of denial. Whether it is believing that Man’s landing on the moon was filmed in a Hollywood back lot or that the German Holocaust was propaganda by radical extremists, mankind can deny anything. Denial has caused more deaths than disease. Simply look at all of the deaths caused in the name of religion. All of the religions have prohibitions against killing others, and yet millions of people have died in the name of these religions. Whenever you say the word no to a new thought or a thought that scares us, denial is at work. Again, the process only requires awareness that denial may be hiding transcending truth from our consciousness. Enlightened beings would look behind the denial to see what was underneath.

          The next step is to take responsibility of our judgments, especially those judgments which create fear in our beings. If we are experiencing lack in our lives, we must be responsible for the judgments of poverty consciousness that we have. If we are lonely, we must take responsibility of the judgments which blackball many people who would be excellent mates for us. If we are unhappy at work, we must take responsibility for the mental processes by which we conclude that we are happy or unhappy with what goes around us. Finally we have to take responsibility for how powerful we are as children of the universe and that we are responsible for our reality. We are never victims, even though we would love to think so.

          The last step to letting go of unhealthy judgments is love. By that I mean that we accept everything that is in our lives as perfect, in accordance with divine timing. When we don’t blame ourselves or anything else for our lives, our lives become must richer, more enjoyable, and easier to change. When we love our life, our complaints, our annoyances, our misery evaporates into the light of the divine source of light in the universe. When we love ourselves, we do not feel alone, we do not feel less than, we do not feel fat or skinny or weak. We acknowledge the divine plan of who we are and are grateful.

          Once we can live with less judgment, or without judgment, our reality changes very quickly. The reason for this is that our judgment creates our reality. Change your judgments, and your reality will change quickly afterwards. Take for example a judgment that a certain image is good or bad. It doesn’t matter whether the image is fat or skinny, young or old, strong or weak. If we could simply let go of all judgments about that one issue, imagine what would change about your life. First, you would stop being afraid of anything that did not match up with your judgments. If you no longer believed that a certain skin color was threatening, you could walk up to and around those people without fear or even noticing that they were not like you. The energy which you present would be of love, not fear, and would put the others at ease in your presence. The bonds of understanding and friendship would be seeded.

          Secondly, you would be happy in your own skin. How many of us deny ourselves happiness because we don’t look or act in a certain way in which we have judged to be good or desirable. If we were not to judge how we looked as either good or bad, 99% of the self-esteem and self-respect issues would disappear. Not bad for a day’s work, is it?  Once we started to love how we look, we would quit all of the unhealthy attempts we have in trying to look a certain way which we judged to be sexy or attractive.  The cosmetic industry would be decimated. We would learn to love ourselves, laugh at ourselves, and not take things so personally.

          Thirdly, you would be free to experience each day as a completely new experience, without the misguided and mis-qualified energy that judgment shrouds over our life. Suppose you were sexually abused at some point in your life. Unless one had great teachers to support and provide understanding, deep layers of judgment infiltrate thinking and experience until life is permeated with the feel of abuse. Not a very pretty experience, I can assure you. If the judgments are undone, then not everyone one is an abuser, you are free to go wherever you like and feel safe (within rational limits of course, Iraq is not a safe place right now), and you can stop feeling the feelings associated with what happened in the distant past.

          Letting go of judgment is critical because Spirit and free will cannot flow freely in an environment where judgment runs amok. As mental beings, we seek understanding. As emotional beings, we experience the power and immense possibility of life. As physical beings, we experience the limits and physicality of life. As spiritual beings, we seek to grow and evolve. Crucial in all of this is balance. If our bodies are not in balance, then we suffer. Judgments cause great imbalance in our lives, and therefore we suffer. Lose the judgments, lose the suffering.