Society trying to trick you into feeling bad because you’re single? Now stop it dead in its tracks!

By Barbara Payne

 

 

Ever feel ostracized because you’re single? Ever been treated like you were a threat? Ever been talked to like you were easy pickings? So have we. And we’re out to change all that NOW.

 

SWWAN—the Single Working Women’s Affiliate Network—was founded to celebrate the passion and courage of single self-supporting women. Women who use their creativity to meet the challenges and overcome the often-tough hurdles society puts in the way of living singly. Single by choice or by chance doesn’t matter. What’s important is to change the world so that no woman ever has to feel ostracized or embarrassed for being single.

 

With 40% of births in the U.S. now occurring to single women, single mothers are becoming common. And the trend for all women to remain single is increasing—51% of women in the U.S. today are single. Though many SWWANs marry if they meet the right partner, some choose to stay single forever. It doesn’t matter whether you date and/or have a long-term relationship. When you’re unmarried, you’re officially single and SWWAN is for you! The point is to celebrate the many qualities it takes to successfully negotiate life as an independent woman in a couples-oriented world—and often at a big disadvantage financially (here’s a little item on current earnings differentials in the US).

Some “herstory”…

In the past, before women fought for and achieved the simple rights men took for granted for centuries—did you know that once-upon-a-time-in-America married women not only could not own property, they were actually considered property!?—single women were at an extreme disadvantage. In the days when few women could earn a living wage in any case, marriage was the only option that provided some measure of financial security. It wasn’t always an ideal situation, but society supported it, and the sexual revolution was a long way off, so most men actively sought marriage. Single women often had to be taken care of by their family of origin or resort to tough—sometimes-appalling—ways of making money. Most jobs available to the majority of women were on the level of slave labor. In the dark past, women were grateful to work only 12 hours a day and to get Sundays off. Check out our Brief History of Single Women in 20th Century America.

 

Since “single woman slavery” ended—at least in some parts of the world—single women have been finding many creative ways to support themselves. Fortunately, today the Internet is expanding the universe of affordable ways for women to reach out—to each other, and to potential employers, customers, and business partners. In the process, more women are learning to dream big—and finding the chances of achieving their dreams much more promising than they ever thought possible.

 

That’s why we invite single working women to share their milestones, their triumphs, their stories with others. It’s the best way to encourage each other—by sharing our courage, our challenges, our burdens, and our joys and wins! Share your stories here.

At last—our own official holiday!

In 2006 SWWAN approached Chase’s Calendar of Events, the official guide to global holidays published by McGraw-Hill. We submitted the idea for celebrating a holiday—Single Working Women’s Week—during which single working women could become the focus of attention…and yes, even receive gifts! Chase’s—which does a rigorous screening-out process for ideas that are submitted—agreed that this was a demographic worthy of declaring a holiday for.

 

So now, just as the U.S. celebrates days like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Sweetest Day, and so on, the world has a holiday just for Single Working Women. The first official annual celebration was in 2007, from July 29 to August 4—we had wonderful parties both in Chicago and in Cleveland.

 

Take the survey – “On Being Single” – just visit www.swwan.org/ and click the link.

 

Got a neat idea for celebrating the new holiday? Naturally, chocolates and flowers are great. But how about these ideas, too: Take a single woman friend to dinner (or cook for her). Take her garbage out. Walk her dog. Take her car to the car wash, or even watch her kid(s) for a couple of hours. What can you imagine as a way to give a break to people who are not only the sole breadwinner but also the only person responsible for all of life’s household duties? We’d love to hear from you!! Send your ideas to info@swwan.org.

 

We are excited to see the response we are receiving. We have members from all over the U.S., coast to coast, and from as far away as Kenya and Finland. And we are very proud that National City Bank in Chicago—with its tremendous WeDo women’s financial programs—is becoming our corporate sponsor!

 

It’s time to change the world! To send us an idea, get more information, or join the fun—basic membership is free—email membership@swwan.org. Or visit www.swwan.org. We offer a warm welcome—any country, any condition, partnered or not—to every single working woman in the world.

 

SWWAN – “Enhancing the single lifestyle—and making the world a better place for everyone!”